Have you reached a point where you want more in your lifetime? You’ve achieved a lot of your master plan, accommodated detours, coped when unexpected things cropped up. All those dreams and goals that were so important; have come to fruition and you’re now feeling ready for something fresh.
In actuality, you might have begun to realise that the past couple of years are spent in cruise-control, comfortably meandering along. Perhaps your children have left home, your business runs itself, you’ve more free time, less overheads and there are no tangible challenges or goals to continue to inspire or motivate you.
You might have begun to notice in certain family members and friends that they are becoming more and more disillusioned with their lifestyles. They may even seem bitter or antagonistic towards those friends who continue to be energetic and dynamic, who have introduced more into their days as time passes.
Seeing friends who value working, who enjoy new challenges and interests, setting themselves testing new projects can sometimes cause bitterness, envy, jealousy and even prompt sarcastic comments regarding how much they do. Comments like,’at their age, their time of life why do they bother, what do they hope to accomplish, why not sit back now and take it easy?’ may be heard.
But watching busy, lively friends can also inspire us to want more out of life. It can inspire us to make an attempt to find the advantages in having a go. We can use this as an opportunity to reassess our own lives, especially if we find ourselves saying,’Is this it? I want more in my life’. In a time like this it is great to mix with those that are demonstrating what is possible and can introduce us to a new awareness of our potential.
Don’t forget, though, that when we do compare our lives to other people’s many facets might be rather different. Most of us have our own story. What provides motivation and purpose for you may not work for another, or even be relevant. We need to nurture our own objectives, find ones that sustain and fulfill us on our way.
Equally it’s important not to be too reliant on others to keep us on track. We all have our own classes, learnings and insights to make. Yes, others may be able to give support but they’re not going to be as heavily invested in our life and achievement as we are. Expecting others to offer continuing interest, encouragement or monitoring may ultimately lead to frustration, resentment and even the development of a possessive, co-dependent relationship.
When you need more in your life it can be useful to first take time to explore and try out new opportunities to see what best suits you. Maybe offer to help a friend, local business, Harker Heights Wildlife Removal or charity. Volunteer and see what’s involved. Give yourself a fair amount of time to get used to the new requirements, routine and discipline, to become familiar with the skills needed; then you may discover how you feel about making it more permanent.
Taking on more commitments doesn’t mean overwhelming yourself though. Pace yourself and revel in this new stage of life. Pre-determine the amount of time you can realistically afford to spend but also accept that after you make a commitment other people can come to rely on your regular input and involvement.
And don’t forget that the longer you remain in your comfort zone the smaller it becomes. When you decide you need more in your life be enthusiastic about regularly scaring yourself a bit with new experiences. It’s a great way to remind yourself that you are still alive!